Tuesday, October 10, 2023

Fun Day

Well, my tests were fun. I got there at 7:50am. It took me exactly an hour.
I left at 12:38 p.m.  Talk about a long, horrible morning.  
This was the most traffic I've seen here, I thought I was back in DC. 

First, I got an IV in my arm for the nuclear test. Then they had me sit in the lobby and wait an hour. Then I was taken to a room for the pictures of my heart.  I was to lay on this bed and this machine went around me. It took 30 minutes. I was connected to things, and I was wrapped up like a baby who was swaddled. 
I yawned two times. I got yelled at.  Oh, this man was pissed. His face turned red. But I tried to repress it but it didn't work. 

Not only did the old curmudgeon yell at me for yawning but then he took me back to the pictures to show me what I had done. So, then he just shamed me. This guy was a peach. I apologized. But you guys I was up at 5 and honestly most of the night so yes, I had no caffeine or water and I'm tired and I yawned. I didn't move my body as he instructed but yawning was bad apparently because it moves your heart. Who knew? He wanted me to see how it moved he kept pointing at it and saying, "See, See what you did?"  
JC I'm really very sorry.

I then am taken back to the nuclear dept. for the stress test. They hook me up and put a big square piece of machinery on my abdomen and then wrap me tightly.  At one point I said to the young man, I promise I won't run away. They had me tethered every which way.  He laughed and said, keep that attitude because in a few minutes, you'll be cursing at me. There were 2 female nurses and 1 male nurse We waited 30 minutes for the PA to show up. Ooh, the nurses were pissed. 

Once the PA arrived, I got on the treadmill with all the cords and my right arm with a blood pressure cuff. They made me move up closer to the handles of the treadmill. I was not to let go of the handles until my blood pressure cuff began to go off then drop my right arm down by my side. 

The PA was constantly harping at me. "Take longer strides," she yelled. 
The male nurse said, "Do you see the length of her legs?"  
But I tried and I took long exaggerated steps as best I could and then she told me to go back to my normal walk. I saw the nurses roll their eyes at her. I was glad to see that because I thought it was just me.  Then as the incline was getting much steeper and it was going much faster the PA would yell, "Are you okay? Can you do this?" 
I wanted to yell back, "I'm doing it aren't I?"  But I just told her I was fine. 
Then she'd say, "Are you sure?"  At this point, I politely say, "I'm positive if this gets to be too much, I'll let you know please stop asking me that" 
The male nurse who was on my right side holding the treadmill patted my arm. I knew he thought that was okay. I mean honestly if you thought I'd die walking fast on an incline why are you doing this to me? 

They wanted my heart rate to get to 137. It did and then it slowed down and the incline went down slowly. I didn't find it difficult at all. Oh, my thighs were beginning to burn a bit towards the end, but it wasn't difficult, and I didn't breathe heavily or any of the things that damn PA was yelling at me. 
It was a small room I don't know why she was yelling. Perhaps she thought I was deaf. Perhaps she was just an idiot. I don't know. After it was done, I had to wait an hour. I was allowed to eat and drink anything now along with taking my morning meds. I grabbed a coffee, and I ate a half sandwich of a PB&J that I brought from home. They told me they had food for me, but it was nothing I could eat so I knew to bring my own food. 

Then I had to go sit for 30 minutes. Then I had an ECHO. Easy peasy by a ridiculously cute young thing named Joshua. Sure now when they are flopping my breasts around I get this cute young thang. Why not the military PA now?  

After the easy ECHO with the cutie patootie, I had to redo my pix because I yawned. I got in and he started on me. I was biting my tongue. I had to put my arms over my head and back as far as I could. I said, "Ah, it's much easier this time without an IV in my arm pinching me."
He said, "I swim so I am in great shape so I can do this easily."  
He has to show me, gee thanks.
As if my not being in shape was the reason my IV was pinching me for 30 minutes.
I responded with a smile and said, "Good for you, this will be easy when you have this done then."  He huffed.

He was passive-aggressive and snarky, and I just didn't like him. 
I dozed off the 2nd time of pictures and I wasn't supposed to fall asleep. 
Honestly, I didn't mean to. He came over and pushed on my shoulder roughly and said, "Hey we're done, and you weren't to fall asleep."  
I told him you told me to not take deep breaths, not to yawn so falling asleep was my best bet. I'm joking, I am seriously sorry, I really didn't do that on purpose. I'm tired and I'm lying down. It just happened. 

Oh, he was mad. He said if you moved, we'd have to do this again. 
He went to look at the pictures and came back and said, "You're lucky they are fine"
Good, was all I said. 
The damn prick. "I'm in great shape...blah blah blah"
Good for you, you're still a homely twit.
Gee, I'm not bitter, am I? 😉

I was finally let loose to come home. Thankfully the traffic at 12:40p was easier and I made it home in 30 minutes.

That was a fun day!

Monday, October 9, 2023

Stop Bringin' Em On

 The hits just keep on coming.

The plumber came back today now that everything was dry to see if there were any leaks.
Yep, right through the tile floor. So now the tile has to be ripped up and done properly.  Good news, if you can call it that, but I'm trying here - I didn't love the tile floor but we had to move forward and it's what I got. 
But it was done incorrectly. 
The Bad news is, it must be done again and that is money we do not have. It may just sit for years like this, but I know it can't. Poor Rick.
And the nerve of the contractor calling me again today. 
I did not answer and will not answer. When all this shit is done it will cost me what I owed him and probably even more. !@#$%^!  He is not getting another dime outta me!
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Tuesday at 8am I must be at the Cary WakeMed Hospital. Cary is not close to me so I will be leaving around 7am or a tad bit before. I am having a nuclear stress test and then an ECHO cardiogram. I keep telling everyone it's just stress. No one believes me. I am not to eat or drink anything after midnight. I don't have time to be ill or die! So this better be no big deal.

I must wear comfortable clothes and no bras with wires.  
YIPEE, a reason to be in public in a sports bra. 
The hospital called me to go over all the items and told me how long it would be. 3-4 hrs. Jeez. 
She said they will feed me but I can't eat any of that food so I will bring something to eat. I asked why I had to eat at all before I get home and she told me some mumbo jumbo that they wanted me to have food before the next round of tests. 
I don't get it, but I will do as I'm told. There is a lot of sitting around while waiting for pictures or some such thing.

Cary NC is another 'burb of Raleigh. When I moved here, I was told repeatedly that it stood for Containment Area of Relocated Yankees. 
Asses.  I am not Cary's biggest fan, but I do have to go there from time to time. Like tomorrow. 
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Have any of you been watching men's and women's gymnastics?  Wow.  Our men are good, but our women are kickin' butt. Simone Biles is so good it's like she's a unicorn. I'd die for her legs. I know I've said it here before, but she has great legs! A bit shorter than mine but if they looked like that, I'd be simply fine with it. 

And lastly, a few of you said you knew about that 3 ingredient PB cookie.
I am going to try it with a tad less sugar. Has anyone tried that? I'm worried it may throw the whole thing off but to me, it's a lot of sugar. I know those aren't words I normally use. What the hell has gotten into me?

I will leave you with a recipe I got in high school home ec.
The first time I made it living with Rick he screamed when I added the hot tap water over the entire batter "Margaret, do you know what the hell are you doing?"  I laughed and said I don't know; we'll have to see.
He shook his head. Knowing I don't cook he assumed I couldn't bake either.

Oh, it turned out and he loved it. It was what I called my PMS cake, not to be confused with Peggy Malizia Syndrome as Rick called PMS, but the real thing when you just need chocolate in any form. When I lived with my sister our cycles synchronized. We would make this for dinner and sit it between us on the sofa and eat Hot Fudge Cake while watching a movie and crying. We did not eat food, just cake and fudge. We did not bother putting this on ice cream as you are supposed to  - no way. We just grabbed utensils and dug in. I no longer have PMS, but I still love this little recipe. When my friend was visiting with her young kids, I made this. All ages love Hot Fudge Cake.

I'll let you try, and you can tell me.  
This is 50 years old. I got it in Home Ec in 1973.
So, it's probably even older than that.

Hot Fudge Cake.
Mix all of this in your 8x8 pan. (Brownie pan)
1 cup of flour
3/4 cup of sugar
2TBSP cocoa (Dutch cocoa if you have it, but Hershey's works)
2 tsp baking powder
1/4 t salt.
Mix all of this with a fork in your 8x8 pan.

Then add to the above mixture 1/2 cup milk, 2 TBSP oil, 1 tsp vanilla 
Spread evenly in the pan.
Sprinkle the top of this batter with 1 cup brown sugar, 1/4 cup cocoa and pour 1 3/4 cup of HOT tap water over the entire thing - DO NOT MIX.

Bake at 350 for 40 minutes.

The cake is baked and rises to the top and the hot fudge is on the bottom.
A piece of this and a scoop of vanilla ice cream. Mmm, it is da bomb. 

Rick has had a sweet tooth since his stroke, and he's been asking for all kinds of sweets of late. And he's still losing weight. How does that happen to everyone but me? I gain weight from inhaling my spit, I swear.

Saturday, October 7, 2023

Cookies

Okay, this is dangerous. 

Rick asked if I felt like making peanut butter cookies. No, I don't, I quickly responded. 
I have 2 hrs to do whatever I want and that's not it.

Then I felt guilty, that damn Italian Catholic guilt I was raised with gets me to cave every time.  
Then I remembered that I had a 3 ingredient recipe.

So I whipped them up. They don't make a lot but perfect for us. I think it made 15, but not certain, Rick was eating them up.

Because there is no flour I can eat them too. Yummy.

Try 'em, you won't be disappointed when you just gotta have a cookie. 
1 cup of peanut butter 
1 cup of sugar
1 egg
Beat. Make 1 inch balls and place on ungreased cookie sheet.
I dip my fork in sugar and make the criss cross pattern. Bake at 350 for 10 minutes. Enjoy!!

I know if you make them, you'll curse me. So quick and easy and pretty darn good. You may be in a sugar coma, but what the hell!

Friday, October 6, 2023

Some Random Items Rolling In My Head

It has not been mine or Rick's best year by a long shot.
No one showed up knocking on our doors Thursday to install a shower door so that was good. This guy. 'David' who wrote to me to STOP texted (it sounds like it should be just 'text' to me, but it keeps correcting me) me the other day as I mentioned on a different number but the same Charlotte area code. So, my text to him saying what the attorney suggested we text went to both numbers. 
Rick asked me again today if I did that. YES. I did it. I CYA'd myself. 
Rick is as paranoid about these idiots as I am. And he feels so helpless and keeps saying if I were not in this shape, they wouldn't fuck with me. I sort of understand him, but I think they still would have.  
Rick used to be a big, tall scary figure if you didn't know he was a big, tall teddy bear. 
Not so much anymore.

We wanted it texted to both numbers so he couldn't say he didn't get it. 
After 'David' tells me to stop he sends from another number thinking I may be too stupid and had forgotten he told me to STOP. Perhaps assuming I wouldn't see the text trail and I'd have forgotten or some such rubbish. Gosh, this makes me hate people even more.

In other news...
Rick packed up a shit ton of fishing lures and fishing accessories shall we say.
He has so many fishing things. Tackle boxes and boxes of lures and things I have no idea what they are for except for fishing. His buddy, Denny, in central PA, is an avid fisherman and we sent a big box of these things up to him. Denny texted Rick today and was so excited. One lure that they use for some big fish had teeth marks on it and Denny said, "it makes my hands shake."  Denny was so excited and appreciative, and he wanted Rick to know his grapes came in and that he would send us some of his wine. He makes good wine. Sadly, Rick doesn't drink anymore...but I do!
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I met a woman while waiting for Rick at rehab. I really liked her. A bit older than me. She is from New Hampshire and struggling here. Oh, I understand. We are meeting on Saturday for coffee at Java Joes.  Rick is okay for me to leave for a couple hours. He will probably watch a terrible movie with no dialogue, just grunting sounds as he does when I leave. 
We call them Testosterone Movies. 

I'll be sure he has his meds and eaten his breakfast and he will be fine. Well and helping him get a shirt on. He can't lift his arm for 4 weeks and getting a shirt on isn't as easy for him as you'd think. It's made us giggle a few times. We had a laugh the other day, he was trying, and I was holding it where I thought it would help and then we both realized it's on inside out. Oh, my goodness it made us laugh. I think we were both so exhausted it was just damn funny. He said, how about if I just walk around naked? 
I told him that was fine, but it wasn't Naked Tuesday.  Oh yeah, he says.  They shaved his chest and underarms when he got his pacemaker and clothes rubbing on the nubs are driving him crazy.  I said you either deal with it or shave it again. Nope, he is trying to deal with it. He asked if my underarms or legs got itchy when growing in. Nope, don't go that long between shaves. But back in the day (70s) before all the waxing places women shaved their nether regions - that's fun when you let it come in in winter.  Not polite to scratch in public. He thought that it was funny picturing me scratching myself in public. Nope never happened Stroke Boy.  
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I happen to love Rom-Com's. But not all. While you know how a rom-com will end it's how they get there that is the fun. A good Rom-Com to me is When Harry Met Sally or several Katherine Hepburn, and Spencer Tracey movies like Adams Rib. Those 2 are my all-time favorites. I like those kinds, not the Hallmark dribble. 
I saw that Meg Ryan is in a new movie with David Duchovny and it looked good to me. But we don't do movie theatres so until it's on a streaming service we won't get to see it.  This one is an adult rom-com. People over 60, kind of thing. 
Both actors are and you can see that and it's refreshing, well to me anyway.

Wednesday, October 4, 2023

Latests Update

No sooner had I posted the previous post, guess who called me?
I had just parked the car and was meeting Rick inside the doctor's office. 
He was to have his 'wound' as they refer to it checked. Take off the bandages we were not allowed to remove. 

The contractor said they wanted to come to install the shower door. I said I was at the hospital and would talk to him later and hung up.  I immediately called the attorney. Yeah, another bill.

The attorney told me to text him the following. (I added a couple things like what is in ()
'Given your prior text message on Sept 22nd telling me to stop and the lack of communication since then, it was obvious that you had stopped work and abandoned the project. Accordingly, we are working with other contractors to complete the work you left unfinished and repair any work that was negligently performed (plumbing, no P trap etc.) that is a cost we have to bear now. Also, the marble tile arrived after the shower door. Marble which we paid for, and you installed the cheaper porcelain. We sent the tile back. What credits will you be giving us for the replacement tile, and when can we expect a check for that?

I did send and heard nothing so far, but they did show up.

We got home around 2pm and about 10 minutes later they showed up. 
We feared they would.  Thankfully, we were inside. 
We also changed the back door lock just in case because they knew where the key was and if they made a copy, we wanted to be safe.
So, our house was locked up and the drapes closed. They pounded on doors, they went to windows and pounded, and I would bet they peered in.  
We did not answer but they sat in our driveway for 40 minutes.
They finally left.  

Because we have ring cameras around our home, we could watch them.
They tried to get in the garage, but it was locked up too. 
They may try again tomorrow, and I will just open the door and say they can call our attorney and give them his card.  I am done. 
I can't afford this attorney bill, but I can't afford this ya-hoo either. It sucks big time. To be honest, this stresses me out big time and I don't need more stress.

I don't want any money for the tile - I just want him to go away.
The new plumber is coming on Friday to fix this nightmare. He is going to report him because I told him I just can't. So, if it is questioned the new plumber will have to address it all. Whew.

And if that wasn't enough Rick looked like he popped a stitch, and it was very red so now he is on antibiotics. Honest to god. I am so done with all this. I am tired, weary, and can easily cry at the drop of a hat.
But I can't. I must plow on. I hate being strong all the damn time. It's been my M.O. since my mom was sick from age 10 - 13.  I want to whine and stomp my feet and say, I don't wanna do this anymore. 
Then I remember what Rick is going through and I can't be so damn selfish. He has it far worse than me.
So, I wear my Peggy face. I'm fine.  I'm just fine.

Construction Attorney

I mentioned a while back, a long while back at this point, that we needed to get the master big tub out and give Rick a walk-in shower.  
While our long-term care insurance would give us some money for home modification, we started the process. Knowing it was a small pittance compared to the actual cost, it was ever so helpful, nonetheless.

In July we called a few contractors - 6 to be exact. 2 showed up.
I did not like the first guy. He was full of himself and kept trying to talk us into those panels that look plastic to us and like tile. Rick's job before retirement told him that was not a good idea, because just like the company bathfitters, water gets behind them over time and there is always a very big mold issue. We wanted tile.

We talked to the 2nd guy and he said all the right things. We asked for a copy of his license, and he said he would bring it by when they begin. But in the state of North Hillbilly, I mean North Carolina, one doesn't need a contractor license if the job is under 30K. (a car inspection doesn't include brakes either, how wildly stupid is that?!)

He did not have tiles with him or take us to a showroom to pick out tiles. Instead, this was on his tablet. I asked if he wanted to write it down, I handed him paper and pen. He laughed, like I was a fool, and told me he'd remember.

They did not show up on the 8th of August as they were supposed to.
By noon I called Yani, the project manager, and he said they would be there eventually. They showed up in the afternoon to begin the demo. 

All the supplies were delivered to our home and put in our garage.  When they brought in the tile, I saw it and told them to stop. Which I have learned in Spanish it's 'detener.' Since no one spoke English, this was fun. The lead man, Meto, spoke English, but not well and he would sometimes drop his men off, so I was with men who only smiled at me. Frustrating as hell.

Thankfully Meto was here that day. I said, "Meto, that is blue tile and we picked out white marble with gray veining. The flooring was porcelain basket weave white and a light gray. You are to use unsanded grout that is light grey." 
This floor tile is rough and a gray-blue. It's not what we wanted or ordered.
He called Yani. They discuss. Yani called me and said, "You ordered blue."  He said this as if I was mentally challenged. I said, "Yani I would NEVER choose blue because it will look dated over time. I chose white with gray veining. Remember it was large oblong/rectangular tiles with points on both ends."  He tells me I am mistaken but he will get new tile for me if I insist.
I insist.

He then calls me from a tile store showing me videos on his phone. I said, these are close, but they are porcelain. If we go this route to move this along, then I want my bill total to reflect the cheaper tile. He promises me it would indeed. I should have known better.

They begin. These guys would show up at 7:30a, sometimes 11am, who knew. Such fun for us right? They built a bench. I made peanut butter cookies that day and brought them into the bathroom for them. Then I saw the bench. It was so high I'd have to jump to get on it. I say this to them. They smile. I have Meto's number so I text him. Then I hear their phone ring and apparently he told them to stop until he returns. They sat and ate cookies. 

Meto shows up and I show him the issue. While waiting for him Rick and I googled the correct height for a shower bench. It should be 17 to 19 inches maximum.  I asked Meto if they could please put it down to 17 inches. He asked why this bothered me. I wanted to scream BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT I WANT JUST DO IT DAMN IT.  But, I did not. I said, "allow me to show you, I jumped to get my butt on it. I said that if I were wet that is dangerous and #2 is this - I lifted my left to show him me shaving my legs and how high it was. He laughed and said, "Oh I get it now" The men were not at all happy they had to tear it out and lower it 8 inches but too bad. 

I'll leave a bunch out and jump to the tile work is completed and I see that there is a big square on the floor that is yellow. I show Meto. He says he can fix it and not have to call the tile guy. He gets the tile from the garage and comes out and says it's done. Rick and I go in and it's the wrong color grout. How does he not see that it is dark gray, almost black looking when the rest of the floor is very light gray. Rick tells him he can't live with that. I'm not happy but we can regrout it later was my thought. Rick is upset that this job was 24k and nothing is done correctly. 

The next day they installed the frameless shower door. It is 2 ft too short. Yani measured it. What an idiot. So, they removed it and leave some nice holes in the new shower tile. The shower was complete just waiting on the door. (minus the wrong grout color in the middle of the floor) The 2nd shower door arrives and it's brushed nickel.  No, the bathroom is all chrome. I paid for chrome, and I wanted chrome as did Rick. They ordered a 3rd door.  

At this point it's Sept. I am so angry, but I continue to be nice and not a Karen, so they do their job and don't screw us. Meto called Yani and they are going at it on the phone. Next thing I know a guy named David calls and claims he is the owner. (online it's an Arabic name, perhaps David is his American name)

I tell David that we are most unhappy, Yani has done nothing but lie to us. He tells us communication is of the utmost importance, yet we can never reach him. He tells us he never got the call or text, or he was in a meeting, or his phone died. Always an excuse. I told him I did not want that man in my house again. David says I will make this right. I will reorder the door myself. He made a big deal of making this right and wanting us to be happy. I didn't believe him but went along hoping I was wrong.

Then he texted me to ask what kind of door. OH MY GOD.
I said frameless in chrome, and I said I have a picture of one from my previous home, something like that. I sent him the photo.
I then told him I would text him the punch list. (if you don't know what that is it is everything that they have yet to finish to be completed) 
It stated in the contract that if they didn't receive one, we couldn't come back later and say it wasn't done.  
David states that when the door arrives, he will come out to the house with the men as they install and go over all the issues and punch list.
He told me to text him when it arrived.

It arrived on Sept 22. I text him and he text back - STOP.
Just to be sure I text back, stop what?
Never heard from him again.

Now we are ghosted with the bathroom not being done.  In the mean time while waiting on the door Rick tells me every time he is in the bedroom and I flush the hall toilet he can hear water in the shower. He is convinced they did not use a P-trap. Yeah, I don't know what that is either. 
Rick insists on getting into the crawl space under the house to take photos and to see this for himself. The man could barely walk a block, his heart rate was 30 and he was gray. I did not wish for him to be in the crawl space, but the stubborn ass goes outside, and I followed. I told him I was holding his ankles and he laughed. I know the woman across the street must be wondering what the hell that was about.  I'm sure it looked funny.

Rick got some good pics. We then call a plumber. The one we use in the neighborhood couldn't get to us as fast as we wanted to, so we called another. So that was more money put out for us. $110 for the estimate, photos, etc. Rick was indeed correct, no P trap, one pipe was too small into the correct size pipe, and one pipe was not in properly and it was escaping fumes. You know septic fumes which can be toxic. 
There were more things incorrect as well. We saw all the photos.
The plumber said this could not have been done by a licensed plumber and asked if there were permits pulled. We assumed so because it was discussed before the contract was signed.

To fix all this would be $1,037 and change. $200 just for the permit. Great.

After the contractor told us to stop, we thought well we will just move along and finish this on our dime. Pissed but for the love of God Rick needs this and it's been since July that this was signed, and this is crazy.

The more we talked about this and read and reread the contract we had a fear that this company would put a lien on our home. We paid 18K and we owed money for the final payment. But if he subtracted the amount difference from the marble to the porcelain we'd be even or better.
Finally, we decided it was worth the pain in the ass to see an attorney. We found only 2 attorneys who deal with construction law. We called them both. 1 called us back.  The other just called us yesterday. Too late lady.

The firm was in Garner where we live. We were happy about that. After speaking to the person she said the person who would handle this is in Smithfield. Oh no! was our first thought.

As we were driving to Smithfield for our appointment we were laughing and saying judgmental things like, Oh God I hope this isn't Matlock or worse. (Smithfield is a Podunk town far south of Raleigh of 11K people) 
We did not have much hope. We were bringing all the color pictures from the plumber and our photos of what was done incorrectly, the contract, the list of things that they did not do, and what was done incorrectly. 

Thankfully, we were just bad people being judgmental because he was great. Mr. W., we will call him, was young, he stated 39 at one point in our conversation. He did not have an accent so we could understand him, which we were thrilled about. He was so very helpful. 
He explained things so we could understand. He answered all our questions and then some.  He asked to read all my texts to Yani and David. He told me I was nice and nicer than he'd have been. But all of that was in our favor so he was happy to see that I was so nice. (I'm not)
The bottom line is that it is best to let it go. 
The company has 120 days to put a lien on our home for the last payment we did not make. 120 days from our last contact (the text telling me to stop) However, the attorney said they would be foolish to do so because what you owe is about what they owe you in the difference in marble to porcelain. The money to get the work done, the plumber, the door installed, and the baseboard and the quarter round wouldn't be enough to fight this. (about 3K) Better to let it go he said. To fight it his retainer is 5K.  @#$%!

Now if they do put a lien on our home, they have to procure (sp?) it. 
He said that in his experience and his firms, this has never happened. 
With our friggin' luck, it would but we are going to go with it won't and be optimistic even though we have no reason to be. LOL

So, I called the plumber to schedule the job. The owner tells me without going to the county inspector and filing a complaint stating they were unlicensed; he can't do the job. I said I don't think I can do that. I called the county inspector; I asked if the company would know it was us. He told me that they would indeed know it was us by the address. Our names would not be used. I then called the attorney and asked his thoughts on this. Rick and I felt we shouldn't do that until our 120 days are up. The attorney called back and said, "No, don't do that. I assume the plumber won't do it for liability reasons, but then find another plumber."  
Oh, for Pete's Sake.

So now we must begin looking for a new plumber. Will this bathroom ever be done? 
I'm leaving a lot out. Hard to imagine right?
Like the stress we are under isn't enough.

I would love to leave some reviews on this company but again the attorney says not to until my 120 days are completed. Why poke the bear? 

Are we having fun yet?
Oh, oh, get this. That gorgeous marble tile showed up on the 23rd of September after we were told to stop. We had them send it back in fear that he would charge us. We were tempted to keep it and sell it. It is so gorgeous, and Rick kept saying, let's keep it. I reminded him that he could charge us do we really wish to go through that?  We kept one piece in case we needed to show them, or an attorney and the man took it away. 


Tuesday, October 3, 2023

I live!

I so wanted to have the name changed here on the blog by now.
Life has just thrown me a big curve.

It happened again. If the pacemaker surgery wasn't bad enough each time, they open Rick up he gets gout. 
Before you all tell me what he can't eat - WE KNOW and he doesn't.

So, after all this, he can now take a deep breath but can't walk and is in a lot of pain. His knee and left foot.  Great.

Then I'm reading where opioids will also cause this or encourage it as it was written. Lucky guy. So, we stopped the opioids immediately. 

I immediately began the medication one takes once you get it. He takes something daily to prevent it, but we all see how well that works. He couldn't walk. He then could use his walker, then his walking stick.  Now he is back to normal. Honest to God, make this black cloud over our head go away - far far away. STAT

Tomorrow, we return to the pacemaker doctor, Dr. M. He will remove the bandages and make sure all is well. Rick just wants all this over with and who can blame the guy. 

His ablation is October 30th. That one scares me. I think he will have to overnight for that surgery. And Rick's unbelievably bad wife isn't upset about it. He will be in good hands at the hospital, and she can sleep through the night and not worry about each move he makes, each time he gets up to pee, etc.
I swear I have only slept 10 hours since May 22nd.

A-Fib caused the stroke. Yet he has to be off his A-fib meds for 2 weeks. I told the PA that scared me. She said if he isn't in A-fib, the doctor can't see where he must scar the tissue. Great. I get that, but it's still scary to me.

I would like to address a question that popped up in the comments a few times.
A good one and one I asked as well.
I asked the nurse who was going over things you can and can't do after getting a pacemaker if he could use a microwave. A snarky old nurse said, "It's fine, it's not the 20th century anymore." To which I responded that there was no reason to be snarky, just wanted to be sure we didn't kill my husband. She didn't smile. Thankfully, we only saw her once. Every other nurse, PA, and doctor was awesome!

The rules that upset Rick are the tool rules. Gas and electric chainsaws are both a no-no. I don't understand why, but he will have to do what he is told.
But you see if he ever gets back to his workshop, using a chainsaw is of the utmost importance to chop wood. But because of some of the tools he can no longer use he will be selling the big lawnmower. We decided to wait until spring to do that, you know when people want to get a new mower. I think he needs to not even worry about that shit because it's far into the future anyway, but it bugs him.

We have an extensive list of questions for tomorrow. On the day of the surgery, we saw the company that makes the pacemaker and then that fun snarky nurse. Everyone was throwing info at us for the many hours we were there. But now that things have calmed down a bit, (HA) we have a list of questions that the doctor can address tomorrow.

And just wait until I fill you in on the Ahole construction company that never finished our bathroom but just ghosted us. We had to get an attorney.
More on that tomorrow. 



Thursday, September 28, 2023

Pacemaker Implanted

We were up at 3:45 am. Neither of us slept a lick. 

We got here at 5:30am. Here is the time as I write this.
Ricks surgery went well. But he had some swelling in his limbs so he has been given 2 IV's of Lasix (sp?) It is making him pee volumes.

He has had xrays, we've met with the company head of the pacemaker, and we spoke to a nurse who went over do's and don'ts. 

At 5p he is given an antibiotic so no infection I guess. All we want to know is when we can go home! We both need sleep.

The Dr came in right after the surgery to say it went better than expected and he would be going home and he didn't need him to overnight.

But honestly it will be 12 hrs we've been here by the time he gets his next antibiotic. And the antibiotic is given via IV, so that takes longer.

We both are begging to go home.

Rick can take deep breathes now and he feels great but tired.

I do not think either of us will have too much trouble sleeping tonight.

We just want out!

Wednesday, September 27, 2023

Pre-Op Day

 Another from the archives. Some are very dated, but you get the gist.

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WEDNESDAY, JUNE 12, 2013

You Won't Hear Me Utter The Following.....

THINGS I WILL JUST NEVER SAY......

  • I'm running in a marathon.

  • Hey, I'll get that from the top shelf for you.
  • I can't wait to work out.
  • Oh no thanks, I'm too full for dessert.
  • Why I'd love to go to church with you.
  • Size doesn't matter.
  • Can you turn up the rap music, I need it louder!
  • Oh I can't eat that....It's just too sweet for me.
  • I'll take a veggie burger instead.
  • I just can't go out with you Mr. Clooney.
  • Gosh, aging is such fun.
  • George Zimmerman is innocent.
  • Oh, Please don't, you might get throat cancer.
  • I hate chocolate
  • Please don't give me more money.
  • I want to get a cat.
  • I love the Boston Red Sox.
  • I wish my boobs were bigger.
  • Let's jump out of a plane for no apparent reason.
  • I just can't get enough spam comments.
  • Do these pants make my ass look too small?
  • Please add more mixer to my gin.
  • I can't get enough of that great show Big Bang Theory

Tuesday, September 26, 2023

Pacemaker Week

Rick has a doctor. appointment on Tuesday, and Wednesday is preop blood work etc. for his pacemaker and later that day we meet with a lawyer because we've been ghosted by the contractor doing the bathroom. Long ugly story. Thursday is the pacemaker insertion. We have to be there at 5:45am. Seriously wish they could do this shit at normal hours. Oh well. Friday appears to be a free day except to be here for my pacemaker patient. We shall see. In the meantime, an oldie for the newbies and an oldie for the more seasoned readers may wish to skip. Have a good week everybody.



WEDNESDAY, APRIL 3, 2013

Cake and a Little Somethin' Somethin'

When I met my husband, he told me he didn't care for sweets.
My first thought was, "Hey, great more for me!"

On one of our early date-type nights, he asked if I wanted to share a dessert.
Are you kidding me?
I said NO, I prefer my own dessert.
He laughed and said, "No woman has ever said that to me."
I asked him, "Did you notice what I ate?  (salad, dressing on the side)
I prefer the dessert to the meal."

As the years have turned, he has begun to enjoy something sweet.
Or as he recently referred to it, "a little somethin' somethin' "

A few weeks ago, after a nice dinner and a glass of wine, he told me he needed a little somethin' somethin'.  I turned around and said, "NOW? And since when do you talk like that?"
I assumed he meant sex. Oh silly old me.

He began to laugh so hard that his face turned red when he realized what I was thinking.
He walked over to the kitchen sink where I was cleaning up the evening’s dinner and he hugged me. He said, "Oh you are so funny, woman. I swear you dye your hair blond."

ME?  What would anyone automatically think when they hear a little somethin' somethin'?
He clarified for me that what he meant was that he was looking for something sweet.
I again said, " ME? NOW?" 
I now knew full well what he meant but I had to be a ball buster.

"Oh, funny woman. I meant sweet as in a piece of candy or cake or something like that."

He continued on about a cupcake or a piece of cake.
I said, " I have Jello."
He said "No."
I asked, "Would you like me to make a quick cake like a box? I have one."

"Would you?"

I said, "Okay. I'll do it." 
Hey, a box cake is easy peasy so what the hell?
I just hate having a cake around because -
1. I can't have gluten and 
2. It is my kryptonite.
Also, it will be hard and dry before it is ever finished with me not eating any too.

So, as I begin to make Mr. Man, a cake.  I remembered I had this recipe for a 5-minute cake to make in a coffee mug. It is the equivalent of a nice-size piece of cake.

I mentioned to him that if I could make him 1 piece of cake instead of a whole cake, "Would that work for you? "
He responded with a happy, "Damn, that would be perfect!"

So, I pulled out that old email copy of the recipe and made him the 5-minute cake.
I put cool whip on top and handed it to him.
You would have thought he was given the other somethin' somethin'. 
He was such a happy camper and moaning so.
When he finished the cup of cake he said, "That was perfect. Just enough."

This past weekend we went grocery shopping.
Bringing Rick to the grocery store is always a mistake but I did it anyway.
As I was looking at my list, he was putting in butterscotch morsels and peanut butter morsels in our cart.   I asked him if he was planning on making something.
He laughed and said "NO!"

"So why did you put those in the cart then?"

"Well, didn't you use chocolate chips in the mug cake recipe?"

"Yes, I did."

"I thought you might want to try peanut butter or butterscotch with the cocoa this time."

"This time?"

"Maybe this time you can make it yourself Rick it's simple."

"Maybe I could but it tastes better when you make it Margaret?"

"How old are you for god's sake?"

"57".....and he says this so proudly which makes me laugh out loud.

"It's my birthday"

"It is not your birthday until May."

"Because you love me then?"

"Not right now Bucko"

"That's okay you'll love me again later" he laughs.

Seriously this is our exact conversation in the grocery store.
Just another reason why my husband should never ever go to the store with me.

I printed the recipe this morning so he can make himself his 5-minute cake.
5 minutes total to mix up in the cup and bake it!! 

I think at age 57 he can make this himself, don't you? (OK not for his birthday!)

Stay Tuned to see if he makes this.
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Update - 9/26/23 - he makes this all the time for himself. Well at least prior to the stroke. 

Monday, September 25, 2023

Speaking of Toronto

I told Rick I wrote about our trip to Toronto where he used sign language for the panhandlers.
He asked if I told my blogger friends about the 'kangaroo farm'. 
He said that story is quintessential you. You must share that one.
I explain that he likes the story because once again, I'm the butt of the joke. Laughing he said, "No, it's just funny babe. I think they will think so too."
"Yes, I guess, but I'm once again the gullible fool."
"Well?"
Stroke Boy thinks he's funny.

Toronto has islands. A slew of them, that is my professional count, 'a slew'.  We went to an island one afternoon and as we were walking about, the sky opened, and a downpour of rain hit us. We ran into the nearest bar/restaurant just a few feet away. Everyone did. Soaking wet, we all bellied up to the bar. It was a swarm of wet people. 

As it happens, we were chatting with people.
I was seated and Rick was standing to my right. This man who was standing to my left had a great accent. I asked if he was from Australia. He said he was indeed and told us where. I apologized to him that I did not know where that was. He said he had hundreds of acres and he raised kangaroos. 
I chuckled.  
He asked what was so funny. 
I said, "You have a kangaroo farm? I didn't think one raised kangaroos." 
"Oh yes, he says, I sell that meat to McDonald's in Australia."
"Ewww. People eat kangaroos?"
"Of course, it's low fat. It's good for you"
"Please tell me it's only Mickey D's in Australia."
"For now,' he says.
"Is it sold as kangaroo or just as a hamburger and no one knows?" 
"Oh no, he says, everyone is aware, and they love it." 
I had so many questions and he had answers for everything

Now, unbeknownst to me, he had winked at Rick when this whole conversation started so Rick knew he was playing me and the two of them just went on with this story.

We all went our separate ways when the sun came back out. 
As we rode the ferry back to the mainland, I said to Rick that I couldn't stop thinking about the kangaroo guy. I think it's awful that people eat kangaroos, let alone at McDonald's. Rick laughed, gave me a squeeze, and said, "Margaret, he was pulling your leg."
"How do you know, I asked, he may really have a kangaroo farm?"
Of course, now Rick is howling. "There are no kangaroo farms Margaret. They do not farm them I swear. They may eat wild ones, but they are not farmed or at Micky D's!"
Oh, Rick was cracking up now. He tells me that the man winked at him, and Rick played along. 
I said, "So he went back to Australia telling everyone about the dumb American?"
"Oh, I'm sure he did, but, c'mon, you are so gullible it was damn funny. And all your questions. I don't know how he kept a straight face and had answers so quickly for you honestly."

So, there you go, another Toronto story that's funny to others.


Saturday, September 23, 2023

My favorite city

Since we were discussing Rick's surprise trips in my last post, I have to share this one in Toronto. Growing up close to Toronto and Ontario I spent a lot of time up there. I am a city girl who grew up in a small town/city so of course I loved Toronto. 
At the time I felt it was like NYC only cleaner and safer to me.(back then anyways)

One week Rick said he had plans for me. 
He told me to pack an overnight bag. 
Oh, I loved these spontaneous trips. Of course, I asked where we were going so I knew what to bring to wear. He would tell me NOTHING. Oh, how do I pack if I get no hints? That was the only thing that bothered me about these surprises to be honest. 
I did what I could and overpacked as usual.

Once we got past Buffalo I had an inkling, but once we were at the border I kept saying, Toronto?  He said maybe. I said, "Oh not Hamilton." If anyone reading is from Hamilton, I'm sorry but it's just not as exciting as Toronto to me.  He would just laugh.  I prayed it was Toronto. Yes, I'd been there many, many times, too many to count, but it was my favorite. I wanted to say, "Gee I hope it's Toronto" but if it weren't he'd be disappointed so I didn't say that, I just thought it. 

But Toronto it was. We had such a blast. We went to a comedy club which was so popular in the 80s. (yuk, yuk's) 
Now Rick saved for this trip. Toronto is not cheap, just like NYC is.
We kept getting hit up for money from panhandlers. They asked for Loonies. (their dollar coin) At first, he gave some a loonie, but then it got out of hand. This one man had on very expensive shoes.  At the time I knew the designer but I don't recall now, except they were very expensive shoes and in nice shape and polished. His clothing was nice as well.

Out of nowhere when asked by this nicely dressed man for money, Rick did the sign for being deaf. We had just taken (ASL) sign language classes. This guy then began to YELL as if that would help. I had to hold back my laughter so I crossed the street or I was going to lose it in front of him and he'd know I could hear. But he said loudly, "SORRY MAN!" and he walked away with no money from us. 

Rick joined me across the street and we signed for a bit until he was out of sight. I asked him what made him think to do that?  He said, "I saved for this trip, I was not giving more money away. And did you see his shoes and clothing? Nope, he had more money in those shoes than the cost of our expensive hotel room." Well, he made me laugh. 
I admit I felt a bit uncomfortable because what if he got these nice things from a 2nd hand store I tell Rick. Rick said, "Margaret, seriously do you believe that? Stop feeling bad for him. Besides if you are correct he is making a lot from others. We've given our share of money to many already"

He made valid points. I can't say that it didn't still bother me a tad but I got over it eventually. I'm a softy and Rick is a good foil so it balances.

We went to a fun place for lunch. I said I wanted a small salad since we had reservations for dinner and I sure planned to eat well at dinner. 
My salad arrived and it was so huge we laughed. Everything was so big regarding food the whole weekend. It was a great day, but I knew if I ate this whole salad I wouldn't feel like eating much for dinner. 
We headed back to our hotel to chill a bit. We drank some wine at the hotel bar. Then we chilled in our room before getting showered and dressed for our dinner date.

We went to dinner. Now this was before I knew I was celiac and I ate nothing but gluten. What fun. I ordered fried mozzarella for an appetizer. I do not recall how it was stated on the menu but I was assuming mozzarella sticks. Rick ordered crawdads for an appetizer. (eeewww)
When our appetizers came to the table we both had our mouths drop open. EVERYTHING was huge. 
I swear my cheese was a pound block of cheese. 
It was a block of cheese that was deep-fried. No sticks. I asked if it came with a difibulation. Our waiter laughed. 
Rick's appetizer, which he thought would be a max of 6 came in a big bucket and there were 50 or more. 
OMG, why was everything so big today? Oh, how we laughed.

As we sat and drank our wine, unable to eat more appetizers for fear of not being able to eat our main meal we watched the wait staff. At one point 6 of them carried out a sandwich or bruschetta, of a long loaf of bread for a table of 6 near us. This was enough to feed a small country. Again we just laughed and said, "They need to change the name of this place to wear your eating pants or something along those lines" 

When my dinner came of fettuccine alfredo, made with 3 cheeses, I swear to you it was a pound of pasta. Should that not feed a family? I could never eat all of this and I didn't, but I did take it to go and ate it the next day, cold in our hotel room. (we had a small fridge in our room) As Rick did with his dinner, which I don't recall because I am self-absorbed...tee hee.

We left the restaurant and we were so full we decided to walk. No taxi tonight. We came across some music but couldn't see where it was coming from so we just kept walking towards it. It was a man playing a guitar who could really sing. It was a lower-level shopping area and he was down below. We hung over the railing and listened and applauded. He had his guitar case open of course and we threw down some loonies. A crowd grew and then we were all singing along which seemed to make this man so happy. He asked for requests, and he obliged. It was a fun crowd that was now all around us and we had fun. We stayed for what seemed like a long time. A real concert and we were all singing and having fun.

We walked back to our hotel because we felt so damn fat and full. We took a wrong turn. No GPS, no phone in the '80s. I had a small map in my purse and pulled it out. A couple asked if we needed help. We said we did indeed. They told us the direction to walk (turn around) and told us about a fun bar on the way to our hotel we should stop at. Okay, we will, we say. 
As we walked Rick said, are you up for that? 
I said I wasn't sure I felt so full but maybe. As we got next to this bar we heard the music and decided, let's give it a try. Oh my goodness what great music and fun. We stayed for hours and then continued our walk back to the hotel. We collapsed. For breakfast, we ate some of our leftover dinner and talked about what a crazy fun evening we ended up having. 

Every time I've been to Toronto I had more fun than I even expected. I've probably been about a dozen times over the years. It never got old to me.
In the 70s I went with my first husband and I got a free album of Robert Palmer when the man said to me, If I smiled he'd give me the album for free." It was the album I chose so I looked around and thought I was on Candid Camera.  He laughed and said, "Smile."  
I did and he handed me the album. I went out to the sidewalk where I was meeting my husband who was in another store next door. 
He asked, "Did you get the album?" (Secrets, was the name of it)
I held it up and said, "I did, and it was free." 
He said, "How did that happen?" 
I explained and he said, "Gee glad he didn't ask for sexual favors"  
"Oh, I'd have paid for the album you ass if he said that, or maybe not, he was damn cute" We both laughed.
But that weekend up there was so much fun, he personally liked the Molson tour because he drank Molson Ice like water. 
Yes, we bought a few cases of things we couldn't get in the US and had to declare them at customs. 
I just remember the man telling us, "Good choices"  
Ah, in the old days when the only thing we worried about at the border was hiding the pot. Ah, The '70s.

Friday, September 22, 2023

Pithole City

Did I ever tell you about Pithole City? 

In the '80s everytime Rick and I drove down to visit his mom we'd go past this sign on my right. It was a big sign like you'd see in front of a large residential development stating the community name. 

Each time I'd say something like, "Do you know what a Pithole City is?" 
"What do you think Pithole means?" 
I said something each time we drove in that direction. I found it curious. This was before Google so how was I to learn about this? Go to the library, but I never did.

Now Rick was always surprising me with spontaneous trips. Toronto was one of my favorite cities and that was a fun spontaneous trip and suprise.

One Saturday morning he said we are going somewhere today. 
I asked, "Can't you tell me where?" 
He told me that would ruin the surprise. 
"Well, how should I dress?"
Casually he tells me.
But you see casual to Rick and myself are very different.
I was so excited and decided to be cautious with my clothing choices so I wouldn't end up embarrassed. Overdressed is better than under dressed to me.

I decided on jeans but a top with a blazer. He insisted I wear comfy shoes, knowing I tend to wear a heel since I'm short.

I asked if we were overnighting like the Toronto trip. 
He told me it was just a day trip. Ok, no packing. 

I asked for a hint. He was not going to share a thing.
We headed south and after we were in Titusville PA, I was worried. 
This is not an exciting area and we're getting more country, where is this nut taking me? I just couldn't imagine anything in this area exciting me or worthy of a surprise. I even asked about Punxatawney? But it wasn't time for that groundhog to be out so I couldn't imagine where he was taking me.

When I made comments, Rick would just laugh and would tell me to just relax and enjoy the ride. Okey Dokey.

Then we arrived at the big sign, Pithole City. He made the turn to enter. 
I, being the goof I am, I squealed. I even remember clapping my hands. Yeah, I'm a dork.

We entered PHCity and I found it was a ghost town. Historical placards explain how this was built during an oil boom. We toured this area and while interesting, I found it more humorous. 

I made a big thing about it in my mind and it was actually nothing. 
A ghost town with some foundations where buildings once stood.  
There was one building as I recall. There were some things about drilling for oil to see. But not a lot of stuff here.
We read all the things to read and that was it. At the time there were no tours or anything as it is today. I think today they have tours etc. There was none of that back in the '80s.

I laughed about that. I mean I expected so much more. Rick didn't know what it was either so it was a surprise to him too. Boy it made us laugh!

It was a goofy fun trip. We laughed about the big sign that drew us into, NOTHINGNESS.

After this 'tour,' we went to find a place for lunch and went home. 
Laughing about what a letdown this was, yet fun.

Now you ask, where did this thought come from now? 
A silly show Rick had on TV about ghost towns. 
I walked into the living room and asked oh so nicely, "What in the hell are you watching?"
He told me it was about ghost towns, "you know like Pithole City"

That got us talking about that trip. He thought it was 'cute' as he calls it the way I was so invested in the sign and so curious as to what it was'
Whatever, make fun of me, it ended up being a day of laughter and fun, even if at my expense.😜