Monday, February 6, 2012

Mrs.

I had a customer today who kept saying her name was Mrs. Roberts.
She left me a voicemail while I was on the phone with a customer and asked me to call Mrs. Roberts. (she was at home so to me that was odd)
She referred to herself as Mrs. Roberts several times during our conversation and when I asked for her name for the warranty she said Mrs. Roberts.
I would never question her about this but I find it so damn odd that she would use Mrs. in place of her actual name. She and I spoke on the phone at various times today and she also emailed me and signed everything Mrs. Roberts.

Do you refer to yourself as Mrs. Anything?
I never have. In fact it never occurs to me to do such a thing so perhaps that is why it jumps out at me the way that it does.
I use my first name when I introduce myself to another adult.

Now granted had I had children I imagine I would call myself that to their friends.
But I don’t have children.
So I think I would never introduce myself to adults as Mrs.(Insert name)
I would use my first name.

While I know to some of you it’s confusing because I go by 3 of them but I would normally introduce myself as Peggy. (good friends, husband and some family call me Margaret)

What do you say when you call a company or doctors office to make an appointment?
Let’s say your name is Sally Smith.
Do you say, “Hello this is Mrs. Smith or do you say,” hello this is Sally Smith”
Do you call yourself Mrs. if you are female and married all the time?

For some reason I find it rather comical.
I thought only old ladies did this.
Old ladies who dreamt of being a Mrs.
I never did that either. So this whole thing is lost on me.
But I’m an old lady now and I don’t do this nor do my friends my age.
This woman would be around early 60’s from my guess.
She told me about how excited she was having just taken early retirement.
That isn’t that old for Pete’s sake.
Same age as Meryl Streep was what I kept thinking.

So c’mon tell me what you call yourself?

11 comments:

flask said...

i was reminded this week of a time in my lie when i was in contact with a pretty large group of families drawn from the US, france, germany, and japan.

in a effort to assimilate into the group, the german women agreed before leaving germany to adopt the american model of addressing each other by first name instead of "frau somebody-or-other". they also agreed to return to the german practice when the year was up and they returned home.

it may be a cultural thing.

Mike said...

Every once in awhile I'll run into somebody that is that formal. It seems really weird when it happens.

mamahasspoken said...

My husband always calls himself Mr. Cronin. Like you I always wonder why he doesn't just say Mike Cronin.But whenever he is on the phone, he will say "this is Mr. Cronin" I think it has to do with the 'formal' upbringing that he had.
As for me, the only ones who call me Mrs Cronin and I introduce myself as Mrs Cronin are my students. Parents, however I introduce myself as Bonnie Cronin, no Mrs.

Anonymous said...

i never refer to myself as mrs and cannot imagine ever doing so. i even prefer my kids friends to call me by my first name. i dont see it as disrespectful because its what i want to be called.

Ms. A said...

The closest I come to that, is referring to myself as Ms. A... and that's just because I was trying to steer away from my original Ms. Anthropy. Never in real life.

PAPS said...

I just say Paps. I dont even bother with my last name. How wired.
www.thoughtsofpaps.com

Julie H said...

I've never called myself Mrs. for anything other than signing in a guest book I think. Even when I was a girl scout leader I was still just Julie. The kid's teachers call me "Mrs. Hoffman" probably because they don't know or can't remember my first name lol

Unknown said...

Michelle is what I call myself. My students, however, probably call me by other choice words.

Anonymous said...

I call myself the Enforcer General of course. Actually I always go by Kelly, only tossing in the last name when asked. When a stranger would refer to my MIL as Betsy she would instantly correct them. "I am Elizabeth Latham Allen the third."

Bilbo said...

After 23 years in the Air Force, it took me a while to stop using my rank when I answered the telephone...

Margaret (Peggy or Peg too) said...

Gee Bill if Mrs is a rank I want a better one because that is low on the todem pole!