Meanies.

Have you ever followed something that you watch on TV on FB?
I tried that. Don't do it.

It's all filled with sad and lonely trolls who give their opinion. No matter the topic they have all the answers and want you to know it. 
99% are mean spirited. 

Season one of a show called Married at First Sight intrigued me. I HATE reality shows so it was a surprise to my husband that I would watch such crap. But I did. I watched I think for a couple of seasons then I said I've had enough of the childish behavior. Rick kept at it. I keep telling him he's too smart for this bullshit but he continues. So apparently he is not too smart for this bullshit. Noted.

I made the mistake of seeing something on Facebook so I went there. I followed the FB posts and got the inside scoop. But then I noticed that everyone had a damn opinion and in all honesty, I just didn't give a shit. But they were mean. I mean to tell you really, really mean. And the people who left these comments appeared to be less than bright and extremely mean spirited. Who shit in your cereal is what I wanted to say to a couple of them but I didn't choose to comment. Instead, I deleted the account. I didn't need the show or the dumb trolls.. My favorite comment was how can these people have sex so quickly? All the commenters sounded like my grandmother. They are married!  If they wish to jump in the sack so be it.  
Honestly, it was like I was reading 1940 comments on a 2019 show.
I had to bail on this group just as I did the show.

As I have said here many times I am an addict of HGTV and DIY television. Once again I saw a Facebook group for a couple of the shows that I really enjoy.
And once again the comments were horrific. I really thought that the above-mentioned show was playing in the dirt so you get those types of people commenting. I surely did not think a DIY show would have the same issues.

I watch a show called Home Town. A nice couple called Erin and Ben remodel homes for people.  I do not watch this show because I like their style. I watch this show because Ben is a real craftsman with wood. I love seeing the work he does. He never ceases to impress me. I learn a lot of things as well. At times he has impressed Rick. If you impress Rick, you're damn good. Then Erin who is an artist. She does lovely work. The paintings she gives each new homeowner is always beautiful. Her skills seem endless to me. (apparently, she got all the talent and this is why I have no talent, she took it all)
The homes are all lovely older homes rich with character and craftsmanship.
They are decorated in a way that brings out the home's original style. They believe in repurposing and keeping to the style of home as it was meant to be.
Now having said that the decorating is lovely, it is just not my style. 
I would no more decorate my home like they do but that's okay. We are all different. I can still see how beautifully done it is. Just because it is not my style does not mean I can't appreciate the work and the visual. I still love this show. It's not about me. It's about how they are revitalizing a town, house by house. 

So imagine my surprise when I went on to the Facebook group about this wonderful show.
Man, people can't just shut up. One wrote how the décor was dreadful. She didn't like the color of the front door. No one asked you is what I wanted to say to this person.
It just went on and on like this. All old biddies who love the doily look or the dated cabinets and small rooms vs open concept all found their way to this site to leave their opinions and while doing it berating the people on the show or another show. For example, "The Madison home was beautiful, too bad the people on show XYZ still have a show because they suck and Ben and Erin are awesome.   What are you in the 4th grade?

So I had to drop off that group too. I wanted the fun of it. To discuss how the hell he got that table in the house and bent that wood to make those curves. (I have now learned how they bend wood and how he did it was even more impressive because he made a makeshift tool because the real deal is 5 figures) I wanted it to be a place of ideas not criticizing and bitching. While that stuff was there it was buried under ugliness. To be very frank, most of the comments on this site seemed to be not too bright older people. It also had a lot of southerners who make me laugh because they think everything originated in the south. (the show is in the south)  I had a painted blue roof on my porch when I was 29. Apparently all these southerners think in the north we aren't bright enough to paint our porch ceilings. I read about 300 of those comments. "They don't have that in the north" 
Or my favorite - Oh we love flowers on the table brought in from the garden one says. The reply was, Oh you too must be southern then because northerners don't bring flowers inside or even have gardens. What the hell do these fools think goes on up north? 

My last straw was a woman who asked if anyone could give her some help and suggestions. She posted a couple of photos of what she and her husband built in their yard.
It was a wooden deck with a pergola.  It was quite large. She was so proud of her husband's first attempt and how well it turned out. 
She was asking for décor help.
So you'd think the first thing someone might say is how nice this was. 
But nope.
Why don't you just paint it and get some drapes and then furniture and the list went on.
One told her to paint all the wood because it looked cheap like this. 
Each comment was taking the air out this poor woman and you could feel it through the computer. She then asked about someone's comments on drapes. A few days later she showed what she had done. She did buy drapes but she stated she couldn't afford outdoor drapes. (they are expensive!  I bought mine in pairs until I got the amount I needed)

She had hung string lights on the pergola, she had a seating area of two chairs and a table with an area rug. She also had a lovely area with a dining table and chairs. It was so nice!
Now was it perfect? No, but who's is? This isn't Nate Berkus's home. 
It's real people who must do things on a budget. Most of the comments made were accurate but did not need to be said. One lady wrote a comment basically telling her she was stupid because these "drapes" she put up are sheers and they will mold and shred with rain and sun.
This woman told her the rug was too small (it was) and that she needed more furniture.
It just went on and on criticizing her. This poor thing was coming to share ideas and instead, she was berated. I am certain that the reason she had what she had was because that is what she could afford. I am certain she knew that rug was too small but it's what she could afford. Why do people do that? Have they not had to weight the money vs. the real need?
A few days later the woman who was so proud of what she and her husband had built wrote  "I was feeling good about all this hard work but I'm not so much anymore. We did the best we could with what we had. I am closing comments."
It was the final straw and I deleted myself from that group too. I wanted to give her a hug. 

I am slowly fading away from Facebook. I have some friends on my FB that I only keep to keep peace in my family. I do not follow them. I don't like them. I don't care for their politics so why would I want to follow them. But heaven forbid I do not allow a cousin or family member to be my friend on FB. I feel like it's so juvenile.  I can't be free there because family can see shit. Just like I can't be totally free here or I get all kinds of grief. (scary this is me not being totally free isn't it? 😉)

Do you follow any tv shows on FB? If not, do not. If so, are you finding the same mean stuff?